Hi Philip,
1> To have as in our demo site you need to install breadcrumbNavXT. So that you will be able to view as in our demo site.
2> If you select to a specific template then you will get that bar. Otherwise no grey bar will be displayed. But if you want to display a grey bar on every single page then you need a bit of code customization. Goto theme folder -> library-> structure -> header-extension.php on line no 596
you will find this below code.
$attitude_header_title = ”;
replace with
$attitude_header_title = get_the_title();
If you get 2 page title then go to individual page and at the below of the page you will see page options to hide it. If no page options then at the top right there is screen options and select page options from there to enable this feature.
Note: We recommended not to change the code because if you change the code then while updating to our new version all your customisation code will be lost. So better make child theme and first unhook the functions and the edit the code.
http://codex.wordpress.org/Child_Themes
3> Sorry we could not understand what are you trying to say. Please clarify. If you need sidebar on that template then it needs code customization as we have replied you before.
Thank you!